
Romance Scams: The cybercrime that just won’t go away
Romance scams often lead to victim blaming. What can we do to avoid them, and to keep our own vulnerable friends and family safe?


Scams conducted via WhatsApp aren’t new.
Romance scams, for example, where criminals lure trusting victims into online relationships and then squeeze them for money, sometimes for months or years, often start with fake profiles on legitimate dating sites.
The scammers quickly pressure new contacts into off-site communication, typically using popular one-to-one messaging services such as WhatsApp, where their messages are end-to-end encrypted and invisible to the dating site itself, and to other members who might otherwise warn potential victims of fake profiles or known criminal “love rats.”
The more private and “opt-in” nature of WhatsApp contacts and groups represents a welcome break from the barrage of unwanted and outright dubious calls that plague the old-school mobile phone networks.
Add to this the much-vaunted and cryptographically strong end-to-end security (something you don’t get from mobile phone calls and text messages), and you can see why some users end up trusting WhatsApp connections when they shouldn’t.
This is the same sort of technology-versus-sociology problem that we’ve had with https:// websites. Secure HTTP (https) means that the connection is cryptographically protected from snooping. But it says nothing about the truthfulness of the content that the website serves up. In fact, the https layer can help cybercriminals to sneak malicious content through web firewalls, because the end-to-end encryption conceals that content from interception and threat scanning.
The initial problem for WhatsApp scammers, as you can imagine, is to get their victims to add them as WhatsApp connections in the first place.
Ironically, perhaps, despite the fear (and often the distraction) created by today’s dramatic cybersecurity news stories about how AI is favoring attackers, and how ever-more vulnerabilities and exploits are being found․․․
․․․it seems that WhatsApp scammers have found that going very low-tech, and keeping things as basic as possible, gives them a steady flow of new victims without arousing the sort of suspicion that a fancier attack might.
Simply put, they send an SMS (text) message from an in-country mobile number that consists of little more than words to this effect:
[sender's number] Please add me on WhatsApp.
No greeting, no names, no explanation, to be sure, but also no facts or details that might be wrong.
At this point, you’re probably thinking, “How could something so brief and impersonal ever succeed?”
The answer, apparently, hinges on two modern commonplaces:
Recent coverage of these scams in the UK, for instance, reveals that many people are admitting that they willingly complied with the instruction, simply because the timing was right.
They were expecting a delivery or a tradesperson’s visit, without knowing the name or phone number of the person who’d be doing the job, and they were used to adding WhatsApp contacts or joining official-sounding groups after an initial contact via phone or email.
With many or most delivery and maintenance companies now scheduling their workers’ visits in windows of, say, two or four hours (and sometimes simply “any time during the day”), the scammers don’t need stolen databases or complex AI algorithms to figure out a good time to message you.
After all, if the message doesn’t mesh with your current plans, you’ll trivially ignore it as a scam.
But if the message does align with your expectations, you might accept it because it feels like an unlikely coincidence that a scammer would have sent it at exactly that moment.
But someone wins the lottery most weeks, despite the absurdly unfavorable odds involved, which is a good reminder that the prevalence of “unlikely coincidences” is merely a matter of statistics and sample sizes.
Obviously, once a scammer has tricked you into adding them as a WhatsApp contact, they can pitch almost any sort of dishonesty they like, using almost any type of cover story, without going through conventional email or web firewall defenses.
In the case of these unadorned “Add me on WhatsApp” lures, however, it seems that the most common endgames used by the criminals right now are:
In one word, DON’T!
Remember – friends don’t let friends get scammed.
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Paul Ducklin is a respected expert with more than 30 years of experience as a programmer, reverser, researcher and educator in the cybersecurity industry. Duck, as he is known, is also a globally respected writer, presenter and podcaster with an unmatched knack for explaining even the most complex technical issues in plain English. Read, learn, enjoy!

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